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Studying as a parent in Germany
Studying with a child can be a major challenge, but it can also be a time filled with valuable experiences and unique support opportunities. In Germany, many international students, including Lilit and Sifat, face the daily demands of both their studies and parenting. They have not only learned to navigate these challenges but have also gathered valuable tips and advice they want to share with others.
The Reality of Student Parents: A Balancing Act Between Study and Family
For Lilit and Sifat, studying with a child means constantly balancing the demands of university with the needs of their children. Lilit, who studies at Flensburg University of Applied Sciences, and Sifat, who is enrolled at the University of Landau, both understand the importance of being flexible and well-organized. “You often have to be creative to manage everything,” says Sifat, whose son Sifran was born in 2020.
Lilit has had similar experiences. She gave birth to her daughter Luisa Franka in December 2023, just two days after her own birthday. “I paused my studies during pregnancy without taking exams, but I wanted to remain enrolled so I could continue seamlessly later,” she reports. Despite the challenge of studying with a newborn, she did not give up.
Challenges and Support: Strength in Unity
Both mothers have faced numerous challenges. Lilit’s pregnancy was complicated, leading to an extended hospital stay and a planned C-section. Nevertheless, with support from professors and classmates, she managed to take five courses. “The university waived my attendance requirements and allowed me to participate in group work online,” Lilit recalls. This support was invaluable to her.
Sifat has faced similar challenges. Her daily life is marked by careful planning to balance her studies and the care of her son Sifran. The exam period is particularly challenging. “I researched childcare facilities early on because waiting lists can be long,” she says. She takes advantage of the university’s weekly childcare service, and the children’s library provides a play area for Sifran while she studies.
Good to know
- Parental Allowance: Up to 14 months, €300-1,800 per month.
- Child Benefit: €250 per month per child.
- Daycare: Many universities offer their own daycare centers, but early registration is crucial.
- Day Care Providers: Flexible childcare option.
- Student Services: Advice and support for parents.
- Family Offices: Support with study organization.
- Youth Welfare Offices: Help with administrative tasks.
- Leave of Absence: Possible for pregnancy and parental leave.
- Maternity Protection: 6 weeks before and 8 weeks after birth.
Initiatives and Individual Solutions
Despite their different universities, Lilit and Sifat share a common experience: a lack of infrastructure for parents at their institutions. “Flensburg is a great university, but it lacks changing tables and breastfeeding rooms,” Lilit explains. She is actively working to improve conditions for student parents at her university. Sifat agrees: “Every university should have a daycare. It’s essential support for us parents.”
"Without my friends' help, many things would not have been possible"
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Both women emphasize the importance of a supportive social network. Sifat highlights how crucial the support from her classmates and the university’s international office has been. “Without my friends‘ help, many things would not have been possible,” she says. Lilit echoes this sentiment, stressing that it’s important not to hesitate to ask for help.
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Support from the State and Organizations
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Embracing Family and Study
Lilit and Sifat demonstrate that it is possible to successfully balance studying and leading a family life despite all challenges.
Their stories provide valuable insights and encourage other students to take the leap and not be deterred by obstacles. With the right support and a positive attitude, much is achievable.
Successfully Balancing Study and Parenting: Tips and Encouragement
Sifat and Lilit agree that support from the university and personal network is crucial. Advisory services can assist with administrative tasks such as applying for parental leave and financial aid. They advise to get informed early and prepare all necessary documents, as the administrative workload can be significant.
“Studying and parenting are both full-time jobs,” says Sifat. “But with good organization and a strong network, it’s manageable.”
Lilit’s final message to other students is clear: “There is no perfect time to have a child. Studying and being a mother is challenging, but with motivation and the right support, it is achievable.”
Sifat also encourages other parents to persevere: “Keeping the goal in sight helps. It’s a rollercoaster ride, but it’s worth it.”
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